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Jul. 13th, 2009 | 04:11 am

I've been slowly calming down. Had an emotional freakout. Perhaps brought on by talking to a man who said he has been homeless for the last 6 years. Such a different point of view on life. He didn't seem attached to stuff so much, but had had his backpack that he didn't like the color of for years. He was attached to a girl across an ocean. I can understand that. Perhaps I understand that too well, and that is why I freak out.

I've had other random encounters with people who have given me the best advice that they could. Saturday a woman was warning people about how her ex fiancé was using people for money, and worse hurting their feelings in ways that will take a very long time to heal. I used it both as advice for how to avoid people taking advantage of me, and for how to avoid hurting other people's feelings.

Another one was a man who told me about his mistakes, and how his family still loves him despite all of that. He told me to care about what I already have, and nurture it, not worry about the parts that were missing. To be the person I was meant to be. He wanted me to learn this 20 years sooner than it took him to learn.

Another man told me that if people could focus, and work together we could do almost anything, especially for good, but people don't have enough community, and our efforts are a jumbled mess that does much bad as a result. That we can be good, or evil, and we need to learn to work together for good for the sake of the little ones.

I think most of these people weren't used to being listened to. Some of this stuff was jumbled in with bits that I'm not sure was sane. Still though when distilled out when I take the time to really listen to people I find that they will share at least one golden gem with me that might change my view of the world. Changing how you see the world can be rather stressful as it is full of surprises.

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cacophonous_joy

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from: cacophonous_joy
date: Jul. 13th, 2009 07:06 pm (UTC)
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oftentimes, the best thing you can do for someone is to simply listen to them.
I'm glad that you were able to be there for them and to learn great lessons from them.

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sibn

there is something to be said for learning by the mistakes of others

from: sibn
date: Jul. 14th, 2009 03:12 pm (UTC)
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what scares the hell out of me is that most people live one or two paychecks away from homelessness, and my cash reserves have fallen precipitously over the last year. i am taking steps to address the problems, but it is going to be a tough row to hoe.

i believe from here on, i am moving in the right direction, but only time will tell. i am uncertain about what it is that i started doing differently that has brought me into my current situation, beyond financial help for others in my family. they are really good people, and much like anybody else, have been hit hard in the last couple of years.

i would not say that i am worried about money, but i am *definitely* concerned.

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Daniel Patrick Johnson

Re: there is something to be said for learning by the mistakes of others

from: teknotus
date: Jul. 15th, 2009 09:03 am (UTC)
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Yeah. I miss having savings

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Cameron

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from: medicalfairy
date: Jul. 14th, 2009 05:25 pm (UTC)
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Your icon is kind of stressful.

The nice thing about the world is that there are so many awesome people.

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Daniel Patrick Johnson

Icons

from: teknotus
date: Jul. 15th, 2009 09:03 am (UTC)
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I had trouble trying to upload a new one. The LJ software was all fail.

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